10 things to remember when you feeling down and crying on your bedroom floor because your kids didn’t say goodbye to you this morning or you are pacing the floor in the middle of the night because you were worried your middle child is addicted to social media.
I had one of those weeks last week where the world suddenly turned into this dark, toxic place full of hateful people. I’ve never really felt like this before so all the coping strategies I know went completely out of the window. I decided to make a list that if god forbid, it happens again I will be ready. I am sharing that list here to help you whenever you feel crappy.
Laminate it and stick it on your fridge for easy referral.
Cut your losses and start again. If your day started bad, draw that invisible line in the sand and start it again with a positive affirmation that will give you the impetus you need to move on. Something like “From this point forward I choose to be calm put this rubbish behind me and get shit done!” You get the picture. Make it attainable, push the easy button.
Bring your world in for a while and be content with getting through the next hour. Concentrate on that you will be far more present which will work to centre and ground you.
Do the 3-3-3 method – look around you. Name 3 things you see, then 3 sounds you hear and finally move 3 parts of your body. This brings you back to the present.
Stand up – move, step outside, clean a surface, make a cup of tea. Anything to interrupt your pattern of thought
Sugar only serves to give you a quick high with an equally quick and much bigger low. You don’t need the roller coaster. Eat some protein: nuts, chicken, Greek yoghurt with nuts and berries or make a protein smoothie. It will even out the ups and downs.
There is nothing like some laughing and smiling to banish thoughts that don’t serve you well. This is one time to search up the Facebook funny cat posts.
Candles are naturally soothing. The gentle, mesmerising quality of their light makes them a perfect aid for any relaxation routine add in a scent known for its calming properties and you can enhance your candlelight experience.
Ylang ylang, lemon, rosemary, sandalwood or lavender are all scents known for their calming properties.
Get that crap out of your head and down on paper. If I am having trouble sleeping thanks to my intrusive thoughts I will often get up and make a list. It takes their power away and the simple act of organising them calms the mind. It is much better to spend 10 or so minutes making a list than hours of tossing and turning and your partner will thank you for it.
By transferring focus and attention to the body and breath, yoga can help to calm anxieties as well as release any physical tension in the body.
Kava (also known as Kava Kava) is an anti-anxiety herb that many believe is one of the most effective, natural ways to control anxiety. Talk to a doctor before taking kava as it can interact with other medications and alcohol. Kava has nutrients known as kavalactones that are very effective at regulating the way you experience anxiety and promoting greater levels of relaxation without any addiction risk.