Our daughter Lulu became addicted to social media, Instagram and Snapchat were here drugs of choice. She measured by her friendships by their Snapchat Streak score. This is Snapchat’s way of keeping these teenagers on their app. Lulu became truly distressed if she thought her streak was about to be broken due to her own inaction.
“GET OFF YOUR PHONE!”
Is this the catch-cry in your house? Does it work? Does your teenager immediately jump up out of their seat leaving their phone behind, getting on with whatever chore it is that you have them doing in your castle in the clouds?
Oh, I hear you loud and clear, no need for telepathy to dial into the answer to this one.
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My fledgling teenager was constantly eyes down staring with vacant abandon at whatever device currently fitted her needs. She was distracted from school work, chores, family life. If her friends came for a sleepover they would sit together, each glued to their own device with little or no interaction.
It was a constant source of friction within the house. The remedy was in front of our faces but we couldn’t make the leap. Fearing the counterstroke.
Eventually it came to a head when one morning recently Lulu sat watching a You Tube video while refusing steadfastly to acknowledge our attempts to talk to her.
This past weekend Lulu had a friend to stay and after explaining what the situation was with electronics we sent them off to do what they wanted.
They did each other’s makeup and hair, ate dinner out on the balcony on a picnic rug, had a candle lit bath in their togs and cooked pancakes for breakfast. All the while chatting and taking photos that they could post later.
After her friend had returned home Lulu continued to interact with the family which after such a long hiatus was heart warming.
We couldn’t believe how easy it was to rectify the problem. We have our daughter back and although there is still a long road to haul we are grateful for this win.
Lulu needed us to step up and sort it out because she couldn’t.
She was addicted.
She wasn’t mature enough or didn’t have the will power to take matters in hand for herself. We had to be the adults and do it for her. Unbelievably there was little to no push back. I think she is relieved that the problem was taken out of her hands.
Those Snapchat Streaks are broken and no one suffered.
To find out what effects too much screen time can cause your child and some rules you can put in place to help them see my post
Does your teenager spend too much time on screens? What if anything have you done about it?