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With your inspiration, I spent my morning learning how to reprogram the router, and was happy to see parental controls are part of routers, at least mine bought within the last 4 years. You can change your password, and regulate any devices connected to always on, block right now, or regulate the time, and you can set up the app in your phone to do all of this while on the road.
Following this, I set up a separate account for her in an old Mac, and placed the websites she will need for her school homework. Any other websites need my permission for access.
If she needs Amazon prime videos, she must watch in the living room. Regarding school, they all must leave their phones in a wall hanging and can use internet only between classes and after school. Hopefully, goodbye to streaking at home on Snapchat and Instagram.
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Ah Michele, I hear you. We still battle with Lulu. Netflix is in the mix now. We have it password protected and I let her watch one program at a time. We bought a new phone for her saying she would get it for Christmas only if her behaviour improved. It does not look like she will get it. On the bright side, there are signs of improvement and her grades have improved. Stick in there, I had the same with my older daughter and she has turned into a young woman we are very proud of and is a credit to herself.
For schoolwork, you could purchase a prepaid wifi that you can keep with you and turn off and on as you need. Maybe let her know she has a certain amount of time to get her work done then it goes off and maybe talk to the school. I think you will find they will be very understanding. Good luck!
Cont’d. -. The problem I’m having is Verizon has to give her at least .5gigs each month. They won’t do zero. I will try and reach them again regarding this. And she can access WiFi at school too. I was going to invest in the Disney circle which allows regulation of devices and internet time, but that means one more item I must monitor. Placing a time period on it doesn’t help. She will use it for social media, then complain that her homework didn’t get done because she can’t get on the internet. Schools place all the homework on their sites now, and her work schedule is placed on a site too. I am a single mom and get home sometimes at 630. I’ve become a phone nazi. Regulating all of this is driving me crazy. I can’t be standing over her every minute she’s on the internet. I’m thinking of changing her login back to selected sites only, and allowing research for school only when I’m there to monitor it. But then behind the scenes, her brother, boyfriend and girlfriend all slip her their old phones so she can get back on social media. I’ve now removed three phones and her iPod. I will change the wifi password today. The school wifi, I don’t have any control over, or when she goes to her father’s house. I could ask him to do the same, but her brother will leak the password to her in exchange for cash. I can think of a million other things to do than regulate this stuff.
Reply Thank you, thank you, thank you for your post. Reading it was like reading my own story and the hell I’m going through in my home. I have removed my child from her sport today because she can’t keep up with her responsibilities in the household, ignores that her cat needs food and water, her room is in shambles and she is falling behind in school. She comes home, locks herself in her room and says she’s doing homework. But what should take an hour, takes 5 because the social media takes over.
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